Who is a confident person?
During an online coaching webinar held on our Facebook page someone popped a question to me and I promised to write an article on it.
How do I build my self confidence??
well not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence, Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem, either way you still have what it takes to get it back.
A confident person does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular, they’re willing to take risks, admit their mistakes and learn from them, they’re able to overcome any form of intimidation/discrimination, fear or phobia. In simple term, they’re always optimistic in their endeavors and abilities. Does this fit your description? If not here are a few ways you can improve yourself:
1. Identify your weaknesses:
Yh Yh i know most times people tell you to concentrate on your strengths but hey, you can’t find solution to a problem you’ve not discovered, so make out a list of things you’re not good at, either you choose to completely avoid them or develop on them is left to you but knowing you’re not good at it helps you avoid situations where you’ll have to face them. For example, you’re not much of a singer, yet you choose to go for singing competitions, you sing trash and you get boo’d then your confidence level drops to the ground. But knowing you can’t sing helps you make better decisions. (that was probably not a perfect example but you get the deal).
2. Look at what you’ve already achieved
It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to ride a bike. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you’ve done, I mean, even the bible told us to count our blessings right?.
3. Identify your strengths
Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities, and also it’ll make you feel better about yourself. Note! No skill is ridiculous no matter how small it might seem. even if its using your tongue to touch your nose or wiggling your ear. its not an easy task, trust me.
4. Set some goals
Set some goals and set out the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done, then gradually move up to the big things.
5. Give yourself some pep-talk
You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your self-talk and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on, nobody will blow your trumpet better than you will, so credit yourself more often. Side note” don’t be that person who tells yourself “nah, I can’t do that”. it affects your subconscious in more ways than you think.
6. Get a hobby
Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, basketball, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.
Back in high school most of my friends were good with the instruments, it was a compulsory curriculum so I had to do it, I would flop on the keyboard, violin, guitar, literally everything except drums, everybody would laugh at my music (at least that’s what I called it) and I’ll feel so deemed. THEN!! Sports!! I excelled in all sports especially basketball, I’d do the k-crossover, step-back jumper, the spin-move, behind the back and usually finish with a reverse dunk! I was unstoppable! I always made sure to play against everybody in the music class and humiliate them individually, my self esteem would immediately skyrocket to its apex.
What I’m trying to say here is, low self esteem isn’t inherited, grown or formed in the body, you pick it up from somewhere, it creeps into you from a mistake you made or something you failed at or things that just happen around you so change your mindset, change the way you perceive things and watch yourself transform into that super confident person that you are!.
Confidence is believing in who you are and what you can do, right or wrong don’t matter so long as you believe in your decisions. if you found these tips useful please share, like and comment. follow The Mahdheebah Blog – TMB page and join The Mahdheebah Blog Forum (motivation and lifestyle) group for more amazing tips on self development and many more.
Blessings to you☺💕