Eternal life 

We are living in a completely brainwashed generation, we have been fooled to believing that life is all about the material wealth you possess, we have been deceived by what we see on television, the lives of the celebrities are all we want to emulate instead of the spiritual life of Jesus Christ our savior. 

      Life on earth is a temporal assignment, we all are familiar with the affix that “nothing lasts forever”. The bible is full of metaphors that teach about the brief, temporal and transient nature of life on earth. Life is described as a mist, a fast runner, a breath, and a wisp of smoke. The bible says, “For we were born but yesterday…..our days on earth are as transient as a shadow”

   To make the best use of your life, you must never forget two truths: first, compared with eternity, life is extremely brief. Second, earth is only a temporary residence. You and I won’t be here too long, so don’t get too attached to material possessions because you met them here and you’ll surely leave them here. You see, what actually matters is the legacy you leave behind, the number of lives you touched on earth, that my friend is the only thing that transcends ages. In the bible, David prayed “lord, help me to realize how brief my life on earth will be. Help me to know that I’m here for but a moment more”.

   I find it really interesting how the bible already told us everything about ourselves before we were even conceived, severally it compares life on earth to temporally living in a foreign country this is not your permanent home or final destination. We’re just passing through, just visiting earth.

    In Abuja, where I live, many people have moved from other parts of the world to work here, but they keep their citizenship with their home country. They are required to carry a visitor registration card called a “green card” which allows them to work here even though they’re not citizens. We as Christians should carry spiritual green cards to remind us that our citizenship is in heaven. 

   Earlier I talked about ‘legacy”, legacy in this context talks about the milestones you’ve clinched, the history you’ll leave behind, what you will be remembered for, a lasting legacy is one that will continue to impact lives even when you’re not alive. Nelson Mandela of South Africa left an everlasting legacy in his country and the world at large for emancipating his people and standing up to the oppressors. Martin Luther king of the United States also impacted lives a great deal and it became a legacy that will forever affect the lives of blacks worldwide, he notably stood up against black oppression, slavery and racism.

    It is fair to say that the best way to live a lasting legacy is to live a life of service to humanity, standing up for the oppressed and going the extra mile for others even if there is no apparent reward because the real reward is in eternity. Your identity is in eternity, and your homeland is heaven. When you grasp this truth you will stop worrying about “having it all, material possessions on earth” God is very blunt about the dangers of living for the “here and now” and adopting the values, priorities and lifestyles of the world, God calls it spiritual adultery. The bible says, “You are disapproving of God if all you want is your own way and the things of the world, flirting with the world every chance you get, you end up enemies of God and his ways.

    Imagine your parents sold all their belongings and struggled so hard to send you to school with the intention that you will do so well and make the family proud but instead, you get influenced negatively by involving with the wrong people, you mix with them so well that you become as they are, you start engaging in fowl activities and end up getting expelled or worse getting in jail, all your parents worked for becomes a waste, all their efforts would be in vain and above all, you would bring an everlasting  seal of disgrace on the family name, you’d be no different from a traitor, you lost focus and conformed to the ways of the world.

     The bible says, “We are Christ’s ambassadors” but sadly, many of us have betrayed our king and his kingdom, they have ignorantly concluded that because they live on earth, it’s their home, well hey, it’s not!! The bible was very clear about that “friends, this world is not your home, so don’t make yourselves cozy in it and don’t indulge your ego at the expense of your soul. Those in frequent contact with the things of the world should make good use of them without becoming attached to them, for this world and all it contains will pass away.

   We are living in a completely brainwashed generation, we have been fooled to believing that life is all about the material wealth you possess, we have been deceived by what we see on television, the lives of the celebrities are all we want to emulate instead of the spiritual life of Jesus Christ our savior. With all the fascinating attractions mesmerizing media and enjoyable experiences available today, it’s easy to forget that the pursuit of happiness is not what life is about. Only as we remember that life is a test, a trust, and a temporary assignment, we are preparing for something even better. The bible goes on to say “the things we see now are here today, gone tomorrow, but the things we can’t see now will last forever”. 

   The fact that earth is not our ultimate home explains why, as followers of Jesus, we experience difficulty, sorrow and rejection in this world just as he did. It also explains why some of Gods promises seem unfulfilled, some prayers seem unanswered and some circumstances seem unfair. Well I’m here to tell you this is not the end of the story, in order to keep us from becoming too attached to earth, God allows us to feel a significant amount of discontent and dissatisfaction in life-longings that will never be fulfilled on this side of life. Earth is not our final home, we’re just passing by, we are created for something much better.

   Fishes are not happy living in a fish tank, they feels trapped and restricted, give them a chance at open waters and poof! They gone. A bird can never be comfortable living in a cage, they’re created to fly, birds can’t fly in a cage, and that’s why they escape the slightest chance they get.

    You should never feel completely satisfied on earth because you were made for more. You will have happy moments here, but nothing compares to what God has planned for you. I couldn’t agree any less with what C.S Lewis said, “All that is not eternal is eternally useless”. The bible says, “We fix our eyes not on what is seen but what is unseen, for what is seen is temporary but what is unseen is eternal.

   It is fatal to think Gods goal for you is material prosperity or popular success, as the world defines it, the abundant life has nothing to do with material abundance, and faithfulness to God does not guarantee success in career or even ministry. Never focus on temporary crowns.

    Paul was faithful, yet he ended up in prison, john was faithful, yet he was beheaded. It almost seem as though the fate of the righteous ones are always fatal but I stand to tell you dear friend that this only goes to say that here is not your home and you have something better waiting for you in eternity. The bible even told us to rejoice in times of tribulations. People are quick to ask why bad things happen to good people, well look at the life of Jesus, all he did was help and heal people and yet he was crucified but now he’s the king of the world. 

     You see, the end of life on earth is not the end of life, in Gods eyes the greatest heroes of faith are not those who achieve prosperity, success or power in this life but those who treat this life as a temporary assignment and serve faithfully, expecting their promised reward in eternity. Your time on earth is not the complete story of your life. You must wait until heaven for the rest of the chapters, and before heaven comes judgment.  You will not be dead two seconds before you begin to question yourself “why did I place so much importance on things that were so temporal, what was I thinking, why did I waste so much time, energy and concern on what wasn’t going to last”.

     When life gets tough, when you’re overwhelmed by doubt or when you wonder if living for Christ is worth it, just remember you’re not home yet. At death you won’t leave home, you’ll go home!! So live life not for yourself alone but for others, pass the test of life and make it to heaven where was meant for you and gather memories that will go with you anywhere.

Let God into you!!

We were made to do great exploits, we were created to be creators, we were born with Christ Jesus

  George Santayana wrote, let a man once overcome his selfish terror at his own finitude, and his finitude is, in one sense, overcome.” And when we identify ourselves with God by living, acting, and thinking in him, we leave all fear and selfishness; our natures sour until they touch the skies. 

  He is content to be what he is, and he shows the same face to all. He seeks to improve himself, but not on the grounds of becoming better than or as good as somebody else but only to fulfill his own nature. He does everything easily, as if he had an especial talent for it, but the reason for his easiness is because he knows that another, greater part of himself is always the doer. He seldom sad, never fearful, always stands foursquare to every problem. How else could he be? His assurance is deep and spiritual. He knows that God dwells in the depths of all beings, and he therefore is equal to every occasion.

 Believe in God today because he is in you. 

Xo💕😀

African pop culture (The Farmers of Africa)

This episode is to revalue the farmers, the feeders and breeders of nations, this is an exemplified and explanatory illustration of the obstacles and problems withheld by the African farmers. From the African farmers!!

“Plant a seed, feed a nation”was the preamble I grew up hearing right from childhood. More frequent than most everybody talked about how important farmers are to a nation.

  Schools made us farm as an extra curricular activity, I dreaded it so much and for some reason best known to the soil apportioned to me, my seeds never seemed to germinate. Oh well’ guess I wasn’t cut out for that.

 The movie “12 years a slave” is an award winning movie centered on slavery, but it expanciated on how Africans were forced to serve their masters and work in huge farmlands for days without enough food and less water, they were used to feed the colonies and their families. 

  Gradually it started to sink in, the importance of farmers cannot be overemphasized, they are the backbone of any economy. 

  Undoubtedly, the potentials of the  “African land” is phenomenal, its citizens are hardworking and capable of providing financial security, abundant farm yields, affordable educational system for the children, life security and a standard living for its people and the world at large. However, most of these potentials are left untapped due to the insufficient funding and financial support from the leaders of African states. More attention is paid to the common minerals that are feasible like gold, bitumen, oil and gas etc and they spend millions trying to harness them forgetting they might run out really soon.

Problems faced by the African farmers all generate from the deficient “financial support and investment” from the government of the states. And other Private owned organizations For example÷

* farmers can’t increase the size of their farmlands to accommodate more crops because they lack the finance, And the cost of purchasing a piece of land is ridiculously high these days. 

* inadequate access to fertilizers- due to the importance of this material to crops, the price has been escalated and keeps escalating, making it almost impossible for the farmers to purchase the quantity they need, they end up getting insignificant quantity that surmount to nothing at the end of the day.

* the major of all these obstacles remain the inability to purchase some basic farm implements and machineries that make work easier, faster and more efficient.  These farmers barely make enough money to feed themselves and their families, so it is absolutely preprostrous for them to purchase machines. With sufficient finance and funding they can purchase basic machineries like the land mower, chisel plow, sprayer, conveyor belt, grain dryer or even the common farm truck. But without these, they end up doing them manually which consumes time and gives chance to errors, it also resonates to very little farm output and unhealthy yields due to insufficient fertilization. 

  My plea is not only to the Leaders of Africa but for every single one of us to embrase the farmers and not see them as the low lives of the community but instead the “feeders of nations” that they rightfully are, let’s give them the support and aid that they require because they work for us all and they plant the trees that gives us oxygen(major bonus). Imagine a world without farmers? That’s starvation you see, that’s self inflicted famine. 

    The potential is there, the strength and will power is present, the ability and love that goes with all things is available abundantly, all that is required now is the support and mainly that of the “leaders”. 

   I visited various African farmlands and had a one-on-one conversation with the farmers to hear their opinions and deep rooted thoughts of the challenges and problems they face trying to feed the nation. I just aired some of it here! Stay glued for yet another episode of the African pop Culture-APC 

For a closing, here are some photos for your viewing pleasure 🙂

Many blessings to you, Mahdheebah 

Men Unalike

God doesn’t call the perfect, he perfects the called!!!

   I feel obligated  to say something about this topic and set it straight, it’s really sad when I see or hear people, young girls especially talking about how all men are the same, though nobody ever said it to me. I’m usually not one to judge anybody for any reason whatsoever but I observed the sort of girls who say that are those who are quick to jump into any kind of relationship that throws itself their way, without any evaluation, or assessment, thinking  is this the right person for me?, is this who God has ordained for me.

   It’s really unjust and erroneously judgmental to call all men equal or the same because God made everybody uniquely in his own image. You can’t classify powerful men of God in the same level as these basic materialistic men you flock around, you just can’t. 

     Recently I read a book “how to be a powerful Christian woman” by Joyce Mayer (don’t judge me), and she talked about how her husband helped her find and establish herself, how he’s heaven sent and unlike most. That’s a relationship built on a Godly foundation. I read another book by Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa a. Rice titled “for young women only” (again, don’t judge me) this book was basically written as a hack to help girls know the deepest secrets of boys, and how ‘they’ think.  A part of the book read “although guys look confident, they are often insecure in themselves, worry that they will be found out, and are therefore drawn to girls who help them feel like they measure up”. HA! How false, it’s not human nature to feel insecure, one only feels insecure only when they have a reason to feel that way.   

   Let me share a message I read from Kaliburius S. Bigelow. He said, Ladies be careful of the men you let into your heart and enter your body, sex is not only a physical exchange, It Is also a spiritual exchange. Sex is powerful and a direct pathway into your temple. Some of you can’t get over that low life of a man because the demons he carries within him still torment you spiritually. You know in your gut that even though he looks attractive something about him ain right. Yet, something keeps luring you to him. Your mind and body wrestles back and forth with spiritual principalities and “sexual soul ties”. You see, sexual soul ties bind you to that man, men his type and dark spirits that follow him. Some women often wonder why the same type of men always pursue them, why they attract the same type of guy after they got rid of the scum bag that plagued their life, it’s that familiar spirit he left with you!! BE CAREFUL who you open yourself up to receive. If he ain prayed up, don’t be laid up.

     It’s really easy to comprehend you see, if you think all guys are the same it’s probably because your spirit has been attracting the same kind of men. The good thing however is that you can change that if you put God first and pause on men. And also, when choosing a partner choose one who is good for you, not good for your parents, not good for your image, not good for your bank account, but choose someone that is going to make your life emotionally fulfilling and spiritually sound. Make sure you get somebody who can rekindle your fire if ever it goes out.

    Roxanne told me that so many good women have dealt with the wrong men and so many good men have dealt with the wrong women that by the time they both finally meet, they’re afraid of each other.  Sadly that’s so true, but it all comes down to you, if they look great but don’t love Jesus why should you be interested in a relationship? You should pray for them and lead them to Jesus not ignore their spiritual life and try to date them to Jesus. (Godly dating 101). I respect those who know how difficult being single can be, yet don’t rush the process, it’s not that you can’t find someone, you just need to understand that your singleness has a purpose, so love yourself but not in the self absorbed conceited way and seek God’s will. It’s easy to jump at every opportunity we get, but we have to remember what God has planned is better than what we could ever think of. God hasn’t forgotten you and if you doubt that, remember what Jesus told peter in john 13-7? “You do not realize now what I am doing but later you will understand”. So do you trust God?

I feel like now is a good time to say this, I was going to do a whole different post on this but now feels like a perfect time, I desperately want everybody to understand that there is a difference between Testing God and Trying God. What most of us do is test God, let me differentiate; testing God is what the devil tried to make Jesus do when he took him up to the mountain and told him to jump in matt4:6, trying God was what Jesus did when he told his disciples the multitude did not need to return home for food, and he blessed the five loaves of bread and two fishes and fed five thousand men aside women and children. Testing God is when you have an exam and you say God is control so you don’t read (you will woefully fail), trying God is when you read as much as you physically can and hand over the rest to God. You see how the bible tags the holy spirit as our helper, notice it didn’t call him the initiator, so what you don’t initiate he can’t help, he can’t even get involved if you don’t start! A synonym for “test” is challenge, why on earth would you want to challenge God? Most of us don’t get the healing or breakthrough we’ve been praying for because of the way we present it to God, you can’t say stuff like let me see if God can do this or use him as one of your alternatives, you go to herbalist, you go to native doctors hell you even visit babalawo (for my Nigerian people), then you now go to church to test God also. It can’t work that way, while TRYING God you make use of the fundamental traits of a Christian, “Faith&Belief”, while TESTING God however we imply Doubt&Arrogance. 

    Let me round off this article with a message Brook sent to me from CA. I found this rather funny than informative but you be the judge “To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of biblical advise” Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz. So while waiting for your Boaz don’t settle for any of his relatives, Broke-az, cheap-az, lockedup-az, goodfornothing-az, lazy-az, and especially his third cousin Beatinyo-az. Wait for your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz!! 

      The message I’m trying to pass here is, whoever you are and from wherever you might be, your sin is not too great, you’re not the first person to do wrong, even in the bible Jacob cheated, peter had an affair, Noah got drunk, Jonah ran from God, Moses committed murder, Gideon was insecure, Miriam gossiped, Martha worried, Thomas doubted, sarah was impatient, Elijah was moody, zacchaeus was short, Abraham was old, lazarus was dead so you see, God doesn’t call the perfect he perfects the called!. I hope I have been able to share a little of my insight to you.

African pop culture (the African child)

The itty-bitty of the average African child, the struggle is surreal but the will is outlasting.

  This is a recital because it tells you what we are, it is a recital because it expanciates but concentrates on its core and values. The African pride, the African heritage, the African culture, the African wildlife and the African child. 

   I have so much to say about the average African child but so little to preach about the African government, the African child outplays every other because through every difficulty HE Stands tall and search a way to fix a smile on his face, unaffected by the underdevelopment and discomfort faced by Africa, they rise every sunset and work their way through till sundown with nothing but hope for the coming day. I admire the will of the African child, desperately looking for a means to survive, I can’t help but admire the will of the African child, Breaking barriers, overstepping obstacles, confronting dangers, withstanding pain, conquering hardship, facing fears, eliminating doubt and outlasting defeat, I can’t help but admire the will of the African child. 

 

 In some parts of the continent the average African child becomes a man at the age of 13! they hunt, they farm, they fish, then they feed. I have so much faith in the African child, the future of Africa finds comfort in their hands, before the rain comes the storm and this storm is just about rapping up in Africa.

  I can’t overemphasize the fact that there is no difference between us all really, we’re just two sides of the same coin, let’s not allow skin color distinguish us, let’s not allow religion divide us, let’s not allow borders separate us, let’s not allow political views split us and most importantly, we must never allow our material possessions define us. So instead of talking about making a particular place great again and hating Muslims meanwhile also creating harvoc among citizens and non citizens, why not make the whole earth great again. 

   There is no limitation to what we can achieve if we put aside our differences and work together as a unit towards a common goal.

   I have gotten remarkable feedbacks from awesome bloggers around the world, a very notable one is “let it be beautiful” please endeavor to check out the blog, she also came up with an amazing powerpoint-poem for Africa, amazing!

     There is still space for more people to join in the the hype and contribute in any little way possible, Africa is home to all. thank you for reading this episode of African pop culture(APC), stay tuned as many more ep’s are on the way. Xo 

AFRICAN POP CULTURE (APC)

This is a must read. Pay close attention, you might find here what you’ve been looking for in Africa (photos might be subject to copyright)

     African pop culture is an exclamation of the various ethnic groups in Africa, the diversity in every country, state, religion, tribe, community and language. I am bringing Africa to the screen of your computers, showing you all there is to know, (or at least ‘almost’ all there is to know). We will swerve through every country in Africa and elaborate on every tribe and its culture. This is going to be a free tourist train ride, and all you have to do is scroll. 
    You notice how artifacts and souvenirs from Africa speak Africa? I mean you literally don’t have to ask where it’s from! Huh. You might have heard countless negative stories about Africa, but I’m about to change your mind, I’m about to show you what the media won’t, I’m about to link you with young entrepreneurs from all over Africa with talents, skills and grave potentials and ability to turn CRAFT into ART.

   Couldn’t be more sure that everyone copped a version of the African attire “DASHIKI” that swept through North America, South America and some parts of Europe. here are some pictures to refresh your memory 

    The dashiki is originally from Ghana but it was made popular by the western parts of the world. The name dashiki is derived from the Hausa word “Dan ciki”, which means shirt. It comes in different variants, from simple draped clothing to fully tailored suits we got em all, as seen above. However, the Dashiki is one of many other African made designs that crossed the borders of Africa, we also had Unique necklaces cut out from prehistoric beads, woofs and horns of animals and just a bunch of other weird stuffs that seem really attractive. 

    When I speak about African culture, I want you to bear in mind that Africa is one of the most diversified continents in the world, if not the most (haven’t conducted that research yet) so culture varies in Africa as the languages do, and there are well over 1,000 indigenous languages spoken round Africa, that should give you an estimate idea how broad this will get. 
    During my research on Africa I came across a very upsetting article that read “most African countries are also known to be exceedingly poor and underdeveloped, where a significant number of people, particularly children, suffer from malnutrition. The incidence of malaria and HIV cases is also extremely high in Africa”. Well, I beg to differ. You see, that’s what the media will tell you, but what they won’t tell you however is that Africa is actually one of the wealthiest continents in the world, in terms of natural resources. Many countries in Africa contain rich reserves of valuable minerals like Colton, diamonds, gold and bauxite, as well as other valuable commodities like oil, gas and timber. I do agree however that this wealth has not historically translated into better living conditions for the average African person and there are numerous reasons for this, including colonization, corruption, armed conflict or rebellion as well as policies of international financial institutions like world bank and the IMF, but huge emphasis on CORRUPTION. So if you tag Africa as a poor continent you might be sadly mistaken because chances are it is wealthier than yours. But just like I stated earlier, this wealth hasn’t translated into riches for Africa just yet, as a result of corruption among its own leaders. The average African leader will export the natural resources of his country to foreign states and use the revenue to feed his family. Tell me then, how development will come? 

       Luckily that’s not what this article is about. I’m about to expose you to the rich cultural endowments of Africa and link you to the artisans/entrepreneurs who make it happen. I’m about to start a chain of connection that will transcend borders, create relationships and business partnerships, promote cultures and expose young entrepreneurs from round the world. I’m about to make Earth our COUNTRY and each country a STATE (maybe that way we will see how alike we really are).  

    African pop culture is about everybody, with a sense of taste, ostentation and charisma. It’s about everything, the jewelries, the bags, the shoes, the clothes and the hats. And it’s going everywhere. It is also going to be centered on youth empowerment, entrepreneurship, handy works, arts and craft, production, exportation and friendship.

    I’m taking this medium to call, beckon and summon anyone and everyone in and out of Africa with something rich and outstanding about your country and its cultural heritage, I’d love to work with amazing bloggers on this, let’s promote culture, lets link entrepreneurs and patronize them as well. This should be fun! Working and conversing with you all. So who’s in?

Merry Christmas 

Merry Christmas from my Bitmoji and I to my amazing wordpress family 😅😂❤❤

Merry Christmas my beloved WordPress family, this might come as a shocker but over my short period here I’ve really come to know a lot of awesome people, the love here is surreal. It’s kind of funny you see, how somebody you’ve never met and might never meet can give you so much encouragement and support, that’s what happens here for me, you all make me not to hold back and I appreciate that so much. I wish I could give everyone here a hug but I can’t so I’m sending you love, peace and goodwill, I love you guys so much. Also, on the 31st of this month my blog will be two months old (yaayy) and it feels as though I’ve been here for decades, y’all so darn nice! I appreciate the likes you give me and the positive comments you send, thank you all for being here, we officially family now! Whether you like it or not 😂😁😂. Merry Christmas again and have a very prosperous New year. PS thank you for 600follows❤❤❤

The interview! With Samuel Bruni 

This is an inspirational article from my interview with Samuel Bruni!

Hello everybody, Recently I started this thing where I interview and feature groups, individuals and entrepreneurs with motivational stories and intriguing ideas on my blog, I try to share their background and history with hopes that you might pick up a thing or two from their experiences. This time I focused on Samuel Bruni. Sam is a clear definition of a fighter, he is a cancer survivor, and at some point in his life he was faced with a severe back injury that warranted his disc removal and his spine re-fused all in the same year, to crown it all, he lost his memory. Rather too much agony for one man huh? Here’s a little insight on how he tackled his situation and resurfaced the successful entrepreneur and urbane leader that he is today. For easy distinction, my words/questions are written in bold and his italics .

Biography?

Sam Bruni, Husband and father of 5 kids. I had my first kid when I was 22, so I had to grow up quick and figure out how to provide for my family. I was always entrepreneurial my wholeI life, but once I had a baby coming I needed benefits and a steady pay check. I took on a daytime job working in call centers, doing sales and service jobs. I found out very quickly that I was a natural leader and was excelling quicker at my day time job than any of my startup ideas, I spent the next several years building businesses and teams for fortune 500 companies such as AT&T, Sprint, Dish Network, Direct TV, Bank of New York, Pennsylvania Power & Light etc. I became very employee-centric from those early years in my career which spanned almost 13 years. In the end, by the time I was 30, I estimate that I probably interviewed and hired almost 3,000 people.  

    The second half of my career, I became much more customer-centric moving away from operations and focusing more on marketing, and what we call the “customer experience” which is the front-end interactions customers have with an application. That change happened in 2008 when a friend of mine told me to read “the Innovators Dilemma”. He happened to be friends with Clay Christensen the author of the book. He challenged me to build a business following the principles in Clay’s book. I broke off a part of the startup I was building (Backcountry.com), and built a business within a business that we grew to almost 100 million in revenue over the course of five years. Since 2008, I’ve been a GM, CMO, CEO and have done countless startups throughout my career.    

   This was the most anticipated part of the interview for me, Remember I told you earlier that Samuel was a cancer patient? Turns out that wasn’t his only setback at the time, here’s what actually happened and how it dealt him.



   It wasn’t just the cancer I got in 2014, it was everything. I had actually broken my back and needed to get my discs removed, and my spine fused in January of 2014. At the time, I was the CEO of a very fast growing business (40% growth YOY), that the board had asked me to take to market for an acquisition. Then in August I was diagnosed with cancer. It was just a lot to deal with in one year. The surgery wasn’t bad, but the chemo afterwards was, it wrecked me, I had very little energy and I lost my memory. My memory hasn’t come back all the way, but it has improved. It really wasn’t until this year (2016) that I started to noticeably feel better physically and mentally.  

 

  After downing all that, you bet my follow up question was “how did you survive all that” and remained focused? Because personally I still find myself pushing a door that clearly says pull, and never want to show my face in public again because of the embarrassment. So what was your turning point, I mean where did you find the right attitude to tackle your severe situation?



    I have a strong support system at home, and I’m by nature a very optimistic and upbeat person. It was never an option to let my five kids see that I had any doubts. I maintained a positive attitude the whole time. I had my family, and 55 employees counting on me.

   

 Just to be clear, Being an “upbeat” person means to never give up or stay down no matter what the world throws at you, it means to keep on striving and going hard, a popular quote is “fall down seven times and get up eight”. Another aspect that should not be eluded or taking for granted is your family, you might not have five kids like Mr. Sam or 55 employees, but you have family, it could be your close friends or anybody that motivates you to keep going and never back down, it could be your gardener or janitor, that’s how God works you see, in mysterious ways. Most importantly, you must have the right attitude, I guarantee you, you could have all the motivation in the world but ultimately how positive your attitude is’ is what determines everything, you might be face to face with hell right now but I guarantee you it’s just a phase, it’ll pass, just stay positive and you will triumph.


   what captivated me about Mr. Sam was his motivational spirit, he is one of those people that can pep talk a d-league basketball team to win an NBA championship, so, I asked for a brief motivational talk for people like us, having difficulties right now, trying to find our way in the world, putting in effort to make a change but going unnoticed, falling face flat every time you give it your all but it don’t work out and you consider giving up, maybe you should take a pause and listen to this first!



     I’ve had obstacles in my life since the day I was born, literally. I was born almost two months premature, my Dad had severe cancer when I was a teenager, my Mom struggled with depression off and on most time of my life, I was diagnosed with ADHD in the 80’s (before it was popular), and Dyslexia later in my life. Like many, the many people who might read this, I can go on and on about the obstacles. The most important thing to remember is, somebody else has it worse off than you. So every time you make excuses about your circumstances or your lack of success and want to give yourself a pity party, you are just wasting your own time. Stay mentally strong, surround yourself with a strong support network (this might mean eliminating friends and family), and put the time in. If you think you can blame others for your lack of success, then you need to start there, and realize you can only blame yourself.  
  

   Everybody probably thinking “easier said than done” I know, I think that too. I hear a lot of people talk about how you should quit complaining and start working, how you should go out and get working like there’s a job outside waiting for you to grab it, How you should start small and utilize the little you have meanwhile you know you don’t even have as little as a mustard seed. And the most popular quote all over the internet is “if you fail, try, try, try again” but I always think to myself, “I’m not a robot”, I’m human, I get tired and downcast whenever I fail, I end up just wanting to give up anytime I fail to succeed at something, How do you go about that??

 
    I don’t actually believe most people are failing. I think most people have set backs or probably things didn’t go the way they had planned. Failure to me is when you lose everything and you are literally without e.g. money, job, home etc. And perhaps never recover, that to me is a failure.  By that definition, I have not failed in my life. I think people are too hard on themselves, and should stop using the word “failure” sadly it has become a popular cool thing to say online. You have to be willing to make mistakes, risk losing time and money to get something to work. However, all the things that didn’t work don’t make you a failure, it is just part of the refining process. Here’s some of what I’ve learned mentoring and consulting people. This is just the tip of the iceberg, but I hope it resonates.
I find a lot of people start off conversations with this idea that they want to do something great for life and humanity, but by the end of the call, I know they really just want to make money. If you are one of these people, you need to come to terms with it. You’re lying to yourself, and wasting time trying to be and do something that isn’t real. If you want to do something for humanity, there are lots of ways to do that without bringing it into your day to day work life and goals. Just say you want to make money, you can be charitable in other ways.

 You have to teach yourself. Technology is moving so quickly, you don’t learn it in school, you have to teach yourself to stay relevant. I did not wake up an expert in e-commerce or digital marketing. I teach myself constantly. Example, anyone who has done Facebook advertising since the beginning, has had to go through some crazy times as they tried to figure out their ad platform. They changed it several times, and each time we had to re-teach ourselves how to use it. What was one day was not the next. So people ask me how I learned to do marketing, and it was through hard work and constantly learning. 

 I believe almost everyone who wants to be an entrepreneur in this day and age, needs to learn how to do marketing. You can start by marketing yourself.

Don’t over invest in ideas. Get your ideas out their quickly, push them out to friends and family, go to a mall and talk to people or whatever you need to do, and get the necessary feedback to iterate on your ideas.  

 Don’t guard your ideas. This was something I learned early on, you think you have this amazing idea that you need to guard, and so you don’t share it. Ultimately it goes nowhere and you watch somebody else do it. 

Surround yourself with people who like your idea and build it together. It is hard to do it alone and move quickly or have the money to succeed.  

If you’re doing something in tech, don’t over invest. I use wordpress for almost all my proofs of concept nowadays. There is not much you can’t do on that platform for testing, and for the most part you can teach yourself how to do it if you are not super tech savvy.

Find a mentor. I think this is crucial. I’ve had the luck of getting to work with some great people in my career, many of which I learned from by watching them, not by asking them lots of questions. You can find mentors all over, some of which will communicate back to you.  

There is so much BS online about how to build a business, market a business, launch a website etc. These guys make their money by selling you their products. Don’t buy them.  There are no shortcuts to success, you have to put the time in to learn. If you’re not willing to do that, then you will fail no matter whose program you take. Buy a book, read a blog, but don’t pay hundreds or thousands of dollars to people that will bring you no real value.

Now I will contradict the above. Sometimes people succeed when they invest in overpriced programs because they put money on the line. Their wife is watching, family, brother, sister etc. to see what they do with that program and so they bust their ass not to fail. If this is what you need to succeed, then by all means do it. Publicize your purchase, and put your ass on the line. I would say though, you’re better off taking that money and marketing your concept or paying for real help you need.


    You’ve heard it all, preferably you’ve seen it all, it is very necessary that we don’t look down on ourselves or believe that our situation is unique or worse off than others, always remember “there are people who have it worse than you do” and they are still achieving, I love to make reference to Nick Vujicic the author of “Life Without Limits” who was born with no limbs, yes! Absolutely no limbs but he’s now living an exemplified life, spreading positivity round the world. I think it’s high time we start to see our disadvantages as our advantage, see it as the necessary lesson or course you have to take to prepare you mentally and physically for the mission God has set ahead of you. Most of us if faced with setbacks of this sort will probably spend the whole day on bed, accept defeat and say I just can’t do it, maybe it’s not for me, I’ll try tomorrow, get rid of procrastination, never accept defeat and as Sam said and “have an unbeat attitude”. 

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THE WOMAN OF PROVERBS (the poem)   

Nancy Rathburn made it clear that “A strong woman understands that the gifts such as logic, decisiveness, and strength are just as feminine as intuition and emotional connection. She values and uses all of her gifts, using the book of proverbs, from 1-31, I wrote this poem to overemphasize the traits of a strong and powerful woman. Enjoy 🙂

      The woman of proverbs is an exclamation of a strong woman poised by the wisdom, strength and grace of God.

The woman of Proverbs is one whose law should never be forsaken,

Likened not unto the whorish woman that bringeth a man to a common piece of bread, 

Neither is she the adulteress who hunts for a precious life,

But a virtuous Woman who is a crown to her husband and far from the rottenness in his bones, 

Contrary to a foolish woman who is clamorous and is simple and knoweth nothing,

She is gracious and retaineth honor, 

Wisdom hath she built her house with,

Because it is written “a wise woman buildeth her house, but the other plucketh it down with her own hands”

Her worth goes miles beyond that of rubies,

Surely who so findeth the woman of Proverbs doth find a good thing.



For a man, is it not better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than with a brawling woman in a mansion?

Is it not better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman?

For can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned? 

The woman of Proverbs puteth away an already started fire,

She eateth not the bread of idleness, for she seeketh flax and wool and worketh willingly with her hands.

The woman of Proverbs is from the lord, 

She is like the merchant ship, 

Well blend she bringeth her food from afar,

With infinite bliss she riseth while it is yet dark and prepareth meat for her household living not her maidens,

Surely whoso findeth the woman of Proverbs findeth a good thing. 

She openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue dwells the law of kindness, 

Bounds does her hands know not as she stretcheth it out to the poor and reaches forth to the needy,

Sickness befalls not her household because she clothed them with scarlet in anticipation for the season of winter. 

Surely who so findeth the woman of Proverbs findeth a good thing.



The mouth of a strange woman is as a deep pit, 

But the woman of Proverbs openeth her mouth with wisdom,

Many daughters have done virtuously,

But the woman of proverbs excellest them all,

Strength and honor are her clothing,

She shall rejoice in time to come,

Just as thy father and mother shall be glad and rejoice that they bare thee,  

Her children arise and call her blessed, 

Her husband riseth and renders praise unto her,

Whyfore he not? 

When it is written,

 That favour is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman that feareth the lord shall be praised (prov 31:30)

Verily I say unto you,

Whoso findeth “you” The Woman of Proverbs, Findeth a Good Thing and Obtaineth Unphantomed Favour from God. 

PERFECTLY IMPERFECT  

Nick Vujicic is one of the best inspirations, and the book “life without limits” stand as the basic upon which this was coined.

    The bible tells us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made”, if this is so, why do we find it so hard to love ourselves just as we are? why is it so easy for us to get burdened with feelings that we are not beautiful enough, not tall enough, not thin enough or short enough for the girls who tell me they wished they were not so tall. Notice how these things afore mentioned are things that cannot be altered no matter how much we worry.

    We become vulnerable and fall into the victim’s mentality when we base how we feel about ourselves on other people’s opinions or compare ourselves with others. When you judge yourself harshly or put intense pressure on yourself, you become prone to depression. Loving and accepting yourself as God loves you opens the door to a much greater sense of peace and fulfillment. It’s like feeling as though there were a higher power above supporting your every decision and move.

     I realized that when I talk about self-love and self-acceptance, a lot of people tend to misunderstand what I mean, like this my friend here telling me she loves herself so much “in fact I want to date me”, well that’s not exactly what I mean, you see I’m not advocating for loving yourself in a self-absorbed, conceited way. The form of self-love I’m advocating is self-less, You give more than you take, you offer without being asked, you share even when you have little, you put yourself down to lift others up, you find happiness by making others smile, you love yourself because you are not all about yourself and you are happy with who you are because you make others happy to be around you. It’s really easy you see, I get excited when I talk to my friends about how excited and grateful I am to have them influence my life and have me influence theirs.

      I had the full attention of a very good friend when I chose to work on this topic and she asked “what if you can’t just love yourself because no one loves you?” well, that’s not possible, you see, you and I are Gods children, and each one of us can count on his unconditional love, his mercy and his forgiveness, we are all of value in his eyes, so we should love ourselves, be understanding of our imperfections, and forgiving of our mistakes because God does all that for us. What was the most important commandment Jesus stated in the bible? We should love God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength, and right after was to love our neighbor as ourselves. So loving yourself is not about being selfish, self-satisfied or self-centered, it’s about accepting your life as a gift to be nurtured and shared as a blessing to others. So instead of dwelling on your imperfections, your failings or your mistakes focus on your blessings, they are so much I tell you, forget about the Iphone device you can’t afford and think about the good health you have that even Steve Jobs the co-founder of Apple couldn’t buy, think about the free oxygen you breathe daily and the constant blood that flows through your vain, do you have any idea how expensive those can get?, you have the ability to hear and see, that’s a blessing, And if ever you doubt, ask yourself if you would give away your good health for wealth or your limbs for that dream car or your ability to see for a private jet.

    The true blessing which sadly we overlook is a perfectly good health, every other is secondary. So think of the contribution you can make whether it’s a talent, knowledge, wisdom, creativity, hard-work or a nurturing soul. You don’t have to live up to anyone else’s expectations except yours, you’re allowed to define your own version of perfection.

    I have a particular friend who is so comfortable with herself, so at peace and enthused about developing her gifts that she just seems to radiate good feelings, I value being around her, everyone loves being around her, why? Because she shines from within, she loves herself but not in the “you’re so vain” way, she accepts herself as blessed even when outcomes don’t go her way, even though she struggles just like you and I. I’m sure you know somebody who gives off that same comfortable vibe, just as you probably know the opposite sort of person whose bitterness and self-loathing drive everyone away.

      You got to learn to glow, if you don’t shine from within, it may be because you rely on others to validate you, to give you confidence, or make you feel appreciated, even though you might be blessed with a few people who can do that, that’s a sure road that leads to disappointment. The only important measure of your beauty and value as a person should be the one that comes from within. You’re probably thinking “easy to say, tough to do”, but I’m just trying to help you see how cruel life could be, people can be thoughtless or just plain mean, so you must be able to look inside for strength and when that strength fails you can always look above to God, the ultimate source of strength and love.

    Self-acceptance and self-love are important but often misunderstood concepts these days. As put by Nick Vujicic, you should love yourself as a reflection of God’s love and as someone put on this earth to make a unique contribution. Too many of our generation youth settle for a more superficial meaning when they buy into the extremes of narcissism and self-indulgence. This is due, in no little part, to the cult of beauty and celebrity promoted on reality shows, movies, podcasts and videos. When you watch those shows it’s easy to forget that life has greater purpose than looking good, living in luxury and “hooking-up”. No wonder more celebrities are in rehab than in church. Too many of them worship the false gods of vanity, pride and lust. I am going to sensor my words now but I know you know exactly what I’m talking about.

     I’m particularly not one to get psyched over a celebrity of any sort, don’t you think this would be a better world if the paparazzi followed college graduates with advanced degrees or missionaries bringing medicine and hope to the poor and needy instead of stalking and paying a lot of money to go watch rehab dropouts with rap-sheets and needle scars? But all hope is not lost, I’ve seen huge number of people, young and old converting, just like I did, attending religious ceremonies and festivals of praise, seeking contentment by learning to love their neighbor and be selfless. I’ve watched teens and adults who spend their vacations building homes in third world countries and serving the needy in impoverished areas of Africa. You see not everyone is obsessed with plastic surgery, make-up-on-fleek, parties or Louis vuitton bags. When you get caught up in material things and surface beauty trying to get other people to value you, you give up too much of yourself and risk letting your blessings go to waste.

   Whenever I lose sight of who I am and let current situations weigh me down and make me question my life, I always fall back to the mirror, and I employ you to do same , when your spirit is tumbling because you’ve been hurt, stepped-on or disparaged, go to the mirror and find one feature you love about yourself, it doesn’t have to be a physical characteristic, it can be a talent, a trait, a skill or something else that makes you feel good about yourself, dwell on that special something for a while. Be grateful for it, and know that your beauty and value comes from the unique person you were made to be.

    I have a very playful 9month old dog, she takes meat illegally so I beat her sometimes which makes her scared of me, but whenever I’m seated in my room feeling downright moody or sober she comes around and tries to start up a fight or a rag-drag competition so timidly I can’t help but give her a rob on the back, so then I ask, how can a dog still love me regardless of how I beat her? She’s selfless you see. So if only you will love yourself as you are, for all your beauty inside and out, others will be drawn to you and they will see your beauty too. Oh and in case you’re wondering , I still beat her, she still steals but we still play so the circle just continues.​

     One day in my junior class of secondary school, I went to the restroom after having a “can’t solve the equation” moment with my teacher, like that wasn’t embarrassing enough, the pipe just beneath the faucet broke because I had my entire weight on it and water sprinkled on uhmm my private area, so it looked like I peed my pant. I tried to wipe it dry but it just kept spreading, immediately I came out the restroom it was as though these set of girls were waiting for me at the corridor, I couldn’t tell if they were talking about my wet pant but I was sure they were laughing at it, I was so embarrassed, I couldn’t wipe it off and couldn’t cover it either so I decided to make jokes off it myself before anyone could, I didn’t let anyone see it before I said something ridiculous about it, I became so paranoid that I walk up to random people and start explaining how it happened without them asking, when they noticed I was laughing at myself more than they were, they gradually retreated and got tired.

     Sometimes through our own doing we make little problems big by taking them too seriously. Having wet pants is not a big deal. We are all perfectly imperfect human beings, some of us may be more than others, but we all have our flaws and our short comings. It’s important not to take every little wart or wrinkle too seriously because one day you might be faced with something truly serious gone wrong, and then what will you do? So stand prepared to laugh at life’s little knocks on the head, bumps on the nose and well, water on your pants.

    I’ve been known to laugh excessively, even in serious situations, I don’t know, sometimes I think it’s a curse, but after I discovered that laughter has been shown to reduce stress by releasing endorphin hormones, the body’s natural relaxant, also boosting your immune system and improving your blood flow while also increasing oxygen flow to the brain. Not bad, eh? Studies have also shown that laughter makes you more attractive. A double bonus! Problem is, I over do mine, I always overdo it, and according to my own research it can kill, I always fall short of breath, my ribcage begin to hurt bad as well as my head then for a brief moment, I lose my full ability to stand, true story!

    I’ve learned to laugh about my problems and the strange responses they provoke, but there is an even better method for overcoming doubts about your self-worth or your inability to love yourself as you are. Instead of dwelling on that pain within, reach out to someone else’s pain. I promise you there are people who have it worse than you think you do, go on the streets and see people living like they ready to die, with raggedy clothes on and no shoes and have no idea where they are going to get their next meal from aside that dumpster around the corner. So I’m pleading with you, stop thinking you have it bad, go give something to the homeless man on the street or go to an orphanage, reach out to ease someone else’s pain, put your focus on someone else in need and I promise, you will feel some sort of self-satisfaction. 

   You have to keep striving, keep growing, keep giving all you have to give, so that in the end you can look back and say, “I gave it my best shot”. Look in the mirror and say “this is who I am, and I accept the challenge of becoming the best I can be. You are beautiful because God created you for his purpose in his image. Your challenge however is to find that purpose, fill it with hope and drive it on faith and put your uniqueness to the highest possible use.

     I had a temporal move to my grandma’s home in south central Benin city and I met this great guy named Mr. Abaka, he wasn’t the richest or most accomplished man in the block, matter-fact he was just a Grass-cutter, but Mr. Abaka is one of those people who glowed from within, He was at peace with himself, so comfortable in his coveralls that everyone respected him and enjoyed being around him, when he starts talking to you about his ideas and forthcomings you’ll be super thrilled, he could always keep a good and positive conversation going. I have a lot of well to do friends from around the world but only few possess this unique ability. 

   We are so quick to share our imperfections, we need to share the beautiful gifts we’ve been given, look inside, there is a light inside you just waiting to shine. Loving and accepting yourself is the only surefire cure for self pity and victimhood. Drugs, alcohol, and promiscuity offer temporary relief and eventually they end up bringing more pain, depression and problems. You see when I came to really accept myself as a child of God and a part of his plan, my life was forever changed. You may not be a believer in Christ but you can darn right believe in your value and purpose on this planet.

   “I thought life was unfair until somebody told me life is fair because it is unfair to everybody”                                                                                by unknown…