Queen of kings

     Most females misinterprete the idea of Feminism/equality. In real sense it might be different but most females get too concerned with fighting to be king, or trying to be the man of the house or the man of the hour or doing what a man can do better, what’s wrong with being the queen? The woman of the house? The woman of the day? You get so focus on trying to be a man that you blatantly ignore being the best version of a woman. Being a woman is about as hard as it gets and most men can’t do half of what y’all can do (well I know for a fact that I can’t carry a hot pot off the gas, how in the world do women do that😱). You don’t need to try to be a man, there’s no reason a woman should tell another woman to “man up” There are alot of male sensitive phrases out there but you have no reason to subscribe to them, you don’t have to take on the role of a man to validate yourself as strong, resilient and independent. I hear alot of females adding “king” to their names like (king_Diana) or saying things like “I’m the man of the year”, is there anything wrong with (queen_Diana)? Why don’t you want to be the woman of the year? The world has revered men as strong and women as weak and you’re playing right into it, yet you say women are under-appreciated when even you don’t appreciate yourself enough. Women give birth to kings for crying out loud, its just like a tree saying its fruits are more significant than it is. Look at it this way, an Apple or an Apple tree which is more productive?? ( I feel like I just scolded myself). 

      I admire my mum alot, you will too if you get to know her, she raised my siblings and i alone and she didn’t merely do it, she did it with class and vigour, we lacked absolutely nothing growing up, she instinctively surpassed the role of father and mother in our lives, and all these time she never validated herself once by saying I’m king or I’m as manly as can be. I’ve been requesting she conducts an exclusive interview with me on “how to be a super woman” but she refutes, only thing she tells me is “there’s not a particular way to be the best female you can be, just be the W(inner), O(utstanding), M(agnificent), A(rticulate), N(atural) in the room”. I’m still pushing to get that interview with her though lol.

   Certain things are the way they are for a reason and Personally, I think it’s hard enough to be a woman, why try to add the roles of a man for validation. Did you know that the queen (♕,♛) is the most powerful piece in the game of chess, being able to move any number of squares vertically, horizontally or diagonally. That goes to say alot in real sense, among which is “you have the power to do absolutely anything”!!

    My little sister plays basketball (she was team captain in high school), sometimes when she makes a nice shot over me she boasts by saying stuff like I’m the king of basketball, no guy can mess with me when I’m with the ball, I’m king and the court is my kingdom! (Geez, so much noise for just one lucky shot). But I tell her, how bout being the queen of basketball? Will that make you any less better than you are? matter of fact, if you claim to be a queen and you defeat men in basketball doesn’t that prove a point in favour of the female gender? (She says yes bro, you have a point! But I’M STILL KING!) I guess that’s how deep the stereotype belief has eating into the younger generation. If every female becomes king who’s gonna be queen? Aren’t you wiping out your own existence singlehandedly? I’ve never heard a man say I’m queen, or acclaim any feminine prowess, have you?

     I guess my message here’ mostly to females is “concentrate on being the best woman that you can be, just like Maya Angelou said “you alone are enough, you have nothing to prove to anybody”. No need to validate your strenght by picking up male attributes, roles or titles. Wear your Tiara with pride And value yourself alot!! And men, I guess we should all just be gender sensitive especially with words, I mean” why can’t we all be feminist?. 

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Nancy Rathburn made it clear that “A strong woman understands that the gifts such as logic, decisiveness, and strength are just as feminine as intuition and emotional connection. She values and uses all of her gifts, using the book of proverbs, from 1-31, I wrote this poem to overemphasize the traits of a strong and powerful woman. Enjoy 🙂

      The woman of proverbs is an exclamation of a strong woman poised by the wisdom, strength and grace of God.

The woman of Proverbs is one whose law should never be forsaken,

Likened not unto the whorish woman that bringeth a man to a common piece of bread, 

Neither is she the adulteress who hunts for a precious life,

But a virtuous Woman who is a crown to her husband and far from the rottenness in his bones, 

Contrary to a foolish woman who is clamorous and is simple and knoweth nothing,

She is gracious and retaineth honor, 

Wisdom hath she built her house with,

Because it is written “a wise woman buildeth her house, but the other plucketh it down with her own hands”

Her worth goes miles beyond that of rubies,

Surely who so findeth the woman of Proverbs doth find a good thing.

For a man, is it not better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than with a brawling woman in a mansion?

Is it not better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman?

For can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned? 

The woman of Proverbs puteth away an already started fire,

She eateth not the bread of idleness, for she seeketh flax and wool and worketh willingly with her hands.

The woman of Proverbs is from the lord, 

She is like the merchant ship, 

Well blend she bringeth her food from afar,

With infinite bliss she riseth while it is yet dark and prepareth meat for her household living not her maidens,

Surely whoso findeth the woman of Proverbs findeth a good thing. 

She openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue dwells the law of kindness, 

Bounds does her hands know not as she stretcheth it out to the poor and reaches forth to the needy,

Sickness befalls not her household because she clothed them with scarlet in anticipation for the season of winter. 

Surely who so findeth the woman of Proverbs findeth a good thing.

The mouth of a strange woman is as a deep pit, 

But the woman of Proverbs openeth her mouth with wisdom,

Many daughters have done virtuously,

But the woman of proverbs excellest them all,

Strength and honor are her clothing,

She shall rejoice in time to come,

Just as thy father and mother shall be glad and rejoice that they bare thee,  

Her children arise and call her blessed, 

Her husband riseth and renders praise unto her,

Whyfore he not? 

When it is written,

 That favour is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman that feareth the lord shall be praised (prov 31:30)

Verily I say unto you,

Whoso findeth “you” The Woman of Proverbs, Findeth a Good Thing and Obtaineth Unphantomed Favour from God.