I feel obligated to say something about this topic and set it straight, it’s really sad when I see or hear people, young girls especially talking about how all men are the same, though nobody ever said it to me. I’m usually not one to judge anybody for any reason whatsoever but I observed the sort of girls who say that are those who are quick to jump into any kind of relationship that throws itself their way, without any evaluation, or assessment, thinking is this the right person for me?, is this who God has ordained for me.
It’s really unjust and erroneously judgmental to call all men equal or the same because God made everybody uniquely in his own image. You can’t classify powerful men of God in the same level as these basic materialistic men you flock around, you just can’t.
Recently I read a book “how to be a powerful Christian woman” by Joyce Mayer (don’t judge me), and she talked about how her husband helped her find and establish herself, how he’s heaven sent and unlike most. That’s a relationship built on a Godly foundation. I read another book by Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa a. Rice titled “for young women only” (again, don’t judge me) this book was basically written as a hack to help girls know the deepest secrets of boys, and how ‘they’ think. A part of the book read “although guys look confident, they are often insecure in themselves, worry that they will be found out, and are therefore drawn to girls who help them feel like they measure up”. HA! How false, it’s not human nature to feel insecure, one only feels insecure only when they have a reason to feel that way.
Let me share a message I read from Kaliburius S. Bigelow. He said, Ladies be careful of the men you let into your heart and enter your body, sex is not only a physical exchange, It Is also a spiritual exchange. Sex is powerful and a direct pathway into your temple. Some of you can’t get over that low life of a man because the demons he carries within him still torment you spiritually. You know in your gut that even though he looks attractive something about him ain right. Yet, something keeps luring you to him. Your mind and body wrestles back and forth with spiritual principalities and “sexual soul ties”. You see, sexual soul ties bind you to that man, men his type and dark spirits that follow him. Some women often wonder why the same type of men always pursue them, why they attract the same type of guy after they got rid of the scum bag that plagued their life, it’s that familiar spirit he left with you!! BE CAREFUL who you open yourself up to receive. If he ain prayed up, don’t be laid up.
It’s really easy to comprehend you see, if you think all guys are the same it’s probably because your spirit has been attracting the same kind of men. The good thing however is that you can change that if you put God first and pause on men. And also, when choosing a partner choose one who is good for you, not good for your parents, not good for your image, not good for your bank account, but choose someone that is going to make your life emotionally fulfilling and spiritually sound. Make sure you get somebody who can rekindle your fire if ever it goes out.
Roxanne told me that so many good women have dealt with the wrong men and so many good men have dealt with the wrong women that by the time they both finally meet, they’re afraid of each other. Sadly that’s so true, but it all comes down to you, if they look great but don’t love Jesus why should you be interested in a relationship? You should pray for them and lead them to Jesus not ignore their spiritual life and try to date them to Jesus. (Godly dating 101). I respect those who know how difficult being single can be, yet don’t rush the process, it’s not that you can’t find someone, you just need to understand that your singleness has a purpose, so love yourself but not in the self absorbed conceited way and seek God’s will. It’s easy to jump at every opportunity we get, but we have to remember what God has planned is better than what we could ever think of. God hasn’t forgotten you and if you doubt that, remember what Jesus told peter in john 13-7? “You do not realize now what I am doing but later you will understand”. So do you trust God?
I feel like now is a good time to say this, I was going to do a whole different post on this but now feels like a perfect time, I desperately want everybody to understand that there is a difference between Testing God and Trying God. What most of us do is test God, let me differentiate; testing God is what the devil tried to make Jesus do when he took him up to the mountain and told him to jump in matt4:6, trying God was what Jesus did when he told his disciples the multitude did not need to return home for food, and he blessed the five loaves of bread and two fishes and fed five thousand men aside women and children. Testing God is when you have an exam and you say God is control so you don’t read (you will woefully fail), trying God is when you read as much as you physically can and hand over the rest to God. You see how the bible tags the holy spirit as our helper, notice it didn’t call him the initiator, so what you don’t initiate he can’t help, he can’t even get involved if you don’t start! A synonym for “test” is challenge, why on earth would you want to challenge God? Most of us don’t get the healing or breakthrough we’ve been praying for because of the way we present it to God, you can’t say stuff like let me see if God can do this or use him as one of your alternatives, you go to herbalist, you go to native doctors hell you even visit babalawo (for my Nigerian people), then you now go to church to test God also. It can’t work that way, while TRYING God you make use of the fundamental traits of a Christian, “Faith&Belief”, while TESTING God however we imply Doubt&Arrogance.
Let me round off this article with a message Brook sent to me from CA. I found this rather funny than informative but you be the judge “To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of biblical advise” Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz. So while waiting for your Boaz don’t settle for any of his relatives, Broke-az, cheap-az, lockedup-az, goodfornothing-az, lazy-az, and especially his third cousin Beatinyo-az. Wait for your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz!!
The message I’m trying to pass here is, whoever you are and from wherever you might be, your sin is not too great, you’re not the first person to do wrong, even in the bible Jacob cheated, peter had an affair, Noah got drunk, Jonah ran from God, Moses committed murder, Gideon was insecure, Miriam gossiped, Martha worried, Thomas doubted, sarah was impatient, Elijah was moody, zacchaeus was short, Abraham was old, lazarus was dead so you see, God doesn’t call the perfect he perfects the called!. I hope I have been able to share a little of my insight to you.